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The Rhythm of Listening: How Quiet Leaders Create Space to be Truly Heard
This week on the podcast, we’re continuing the Quiet Strength series by exploring the rhythm of listening - and it’s one I keep finding myself revisiting. Not long ago, I was in a conversation with a young woman I’m mentoring. I wanted to listen well. I was asking questions. I was engaged. I was offering thoughts. And then I realized something uncomfortable. I was cutting her off. Not dramatically. Not rudely. Just enough to steer the conversation toward where I thought i

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Jan 153 min read


The Rhythm of Rest: What it Looks Like for All Nine Enneagram Types
Rest Looks Different for Every Enneagram Type - Here’s Why That Matters We often talk about rest as if it’s one-size-fits-all: take a nap, take a break, take a vacation. But if you’ve been alive longer than five minutes, you know that isn’t how it works. Some people rest by being with others. Some rest by being alone. Some rest by moving their bodies. Some rest by not moving at all. And for quiet leaders - who often spend their energy serving, supporting, managing, or simply

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Dec 13, 20252 min read


The Rhythm of Gratitude: A Quiet Leader's Superpower
As the year winds down, it’s a natural time to reflect on what has passed and to consider the year ahead. For quiet leaders - those who lead from presence, integrity, and consistency - one of the most transformative rhythms we can cultivate is gratitude . Gratitude for quiet leaders isn’t about performing grand gestures or finding the perfect words. It’s noticing the small acts that make a difference: a supportive word, a completed task, or the calm presence we bring to our t

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Dec 3, 20252 min read


Sunshine & Shadows: Why Growth Feels Uncomfortable (Enneagram Insights for Personal Development)
Growth is supposed to feel good… right? Not always. If you’ve ever made a healthy choice and still felt unsettled afterward, you’re not...

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Aug 14, 20253 min read


A 2-Minute Grounding Exercise for Conflict-Avoidant Leaders
Let’s be honest... most of us don’t exactly look forward to conflict. Whether it’s a tense conversation at work, a moment of...

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Aug 7, 20253 min read


Why You Avoid Conflict (According to Your Enneagram Type) and How to Deal With It
Let’s be real: most of us don’t love conflict. Some people avoid it entirely. Others charge in and end up wondering why no one followed....

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Aug 3, 20254 min read


Travel & the Enneagram: What Each Type Needs to Stay Grounded on the Road
Travel sounds like a dream! Adventure, connection, new experiences, but let’s be honest… sometimes it brings out the worst in us. If...

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Jul 23, 20254 min read


The Comparison Trap: How Social Media Affects Each Enneagram Type and What to Do About It
Have you ever opened Instagram to unwind… only to close it feeling discouraged, behind, or somehow less than ? Yep. Me too. Social media...

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Jul 11, 20254 min read


Mid-Year Reset: A Reflective Framework to Help You Recenter and Grow
Can you believe we’re already halfway through the year? Whether it’s flown by or dragged in places, the truth is. .. you ’re not the same...

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Jul 5, 20253 min read


Let Your Presence Speak: 5 Small Body Language Shifts That Make a Big Impact
Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why didn’t that land the way I hoped it would?” You said all the right words,...

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Jun 27, 20253 min read


One Small Communication Tip for Each Enneagram Stance
Have you ever been confused by someone’s response—or lack of one? Maybe they suddenly went silent. Maybe they steamrolled the...

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Jun 20, 20253 min read


How Each Enneagram Type Unwinds on Vacation (or Struggles To)
Let’s be honest: most of us say we want rest… but vacation mode can be a surprisingly complicated thing. Depending on your Enneagram...

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Jun 16, 20253 min read


3 Powerful Ways to Recharge When Leadership Feels Exhausting
Strength in Small Doses: 3 Simple Ways to Recharge When Leadership Feels Draining Let’s talk about something real for a moment:...

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Jun 7, 20253 min read


The First Step to Avoiding Burnout —Based on Your Enneagram Type
Strength in Small Doses: When you Just Need a Break This summer, we’re launching a special series called Strength in Small Doses...

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Jun 6, 20252 min read
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